Which Level of Relationship Do You Have? < the Dorisian Theory >

disclaimer: I am not an expert in relationships, nor do i have a degree on BS - Relationship Studies. You may believe what I think, or not. I just think that this has helped me a lot with my different relationships with people, and have prevented me unnecessary pains brought by people who have come in my life.

In addition, I really do not know if studies on the leveling of relationships have already been made. or anything like this view has already been studied.

My own leveling of relationship can help people ( according to my theory (or not my theory..ambut kung naa na'y naka una ) ) on how they should react to a certain type of relationship.

This has arose when a friend of mine asked me about my relationship with a "lover". She asked, "So, what level of commitment do you have? ". I was 21 at that time. Young and very consumed with the idea of "being in love", and "being loved", I thought, "is there such a thing as a "level of commitment"? And if so, what were the things I should do and not do when I were in that level...?

"Relationship", according to Merriam Webster, is the state of being related or connected.

So, for the sake of this, uhm, Dorisian theory, we'll use that definition.

okay, enough of the intro.here are the different types of relationships, numbered by their levels ( 1/Level 1( the lowest level) , and 10/ level 10 ( the highest level) :

1. I-Know-Him

You go to the same school. So, you know him.
You read the book he's written, so you think you know him. You are just a fan. He knows your face, but doesn't really know your name.
The most shallow.

2. He-Knows-Whom-I-Know

So your friend introduces him. He is known by your friend, so you think you also know him. Your friend likes him, so you think you'll also like him. Your friend says he is very smart, good, etc...so you believe your friend.

3. Kilig Kilig Relationship

Whenever you feel physically attracted to someone, or vice versa, you think your hormones and heart are one. so, because you're kilig, whatever he says, does,...you have become his slave. when he says, he loves you, 90 to 100 percent of the time you believe him. you shut your screaming brain off. he does not know what makes you happy or that your favorite color is black. he doesn't even know your middle name. in short, he does not care about you, as long as he feels some form of a hype feeling /kilig in him ( now we know what it's called...some call it, "libido" ) that you can give him.
some would even give their virginity for this cheap kind of relationship.


4. Common Interest Partner

You go to the same club, organization, school, or church. He knows your name.
you go to the same book club. you realize he also reads Jessica Zafra books, and memorizes Jessica Zafra lines. you then think you're a match. uhm, mostly wrong.

5. Virtual friend/lover

So he comments/likes your status/photos/notes/links, etc on facebook. He looks cool on the photos. He is decent, you can see. His friends are great people. His family seems nice.
He texts you everyday, or calls you.
He chats you on the messenger or facebook. night and day, forever (duh).
All you know about him is his words on your cell phone or facebook or etc., or photos uploaded by him.
Virtual relationships do not work ( if they remain virtual for a long time ) for lovers. Most of the time, words in facebooks or cell phones are too much calculated. Better see them personally to see how they react. There are still gestures, tones of voices you ought to consider. He must personally see your family, friends, etc. and experience the people in your life personally, and vice versa.

6. Long Distance Relationship

The title speaks for itself. Long. Distance. This COULD work for those who have known each other for a long time and have engaged each other personally before the physical separation happens( But even then there's no guarantee ). However, for those people who have just gotten to know each other, there is just a very slim chance. getting to know each other stage then distant? nah, i don't think so.

7. Blood Relationship

Well, you share the same DNA. studies show that even personalities of people are greatly affected by their DNA ( eg, a criminal parent produces a criminal child...there's even called a "criminal gene" ). you may hate your parents, but admit it, you even share the same jargons and melody of speech. and yes, blood is thicker than water.


8. Spiritual Accountability Partners

This includes both of you being intimate with God together. If you learn to pray together and for each other, you'll soon realize, not only your spirits connect with God, but your spirits connect with each other.

9. Husband - Wife Relationship

You live in the same house, share the same bed, food, TV ( and TV shows ), toothpaste, and even, soap. most especially you unite yourself physically and are the parents of another human being you both produce. you have joint accounts, and you have joint problems as well.

10. Creator-Created Relationship

A created will learn to be transparent to his Creator-- who knows what he thinks and feels, his past, present, and future, and the words he is about to say even before he speaks them. In a capsule, this is the highest form of relationship coz this intimacy knows no bound. no time, nor space, nor circumstance, nor wrongdoing (or rightdoing) can separate this love relationship.